I am the first to admit that I have an addictive personality. Like many people my age, I am addicted to my phone. I spend a lot of time on Pinterest, Instagram, Tumblr, Snapchat, and YouTube. When I became aware of the amount of time I spent on my phone and how much of my life it consumed, I downloaded the app QualityTime and began tracking my phone usage. I decided for a period of time, I would just let the app track my time. Everyday it gives me a summary of my daily activity and every week is tells me the total hours I spent on my phone and the division of time between the apps I used. After about two months of tracking my usage, I can definitely say I have some form of phone addiction.
As someone who has struggled with mental illness for a long time (you can read that story here), I can’t stress how important it is to find or identify your support group. You should never go through mental illness alone, and the odds are, your probably aren’t. There is someone in your life that cares and wants to help or understand.
A support group is a few people in your life that you trust. These people are there for you when you need to talk. They are there to listen. Maybe they can provide advice if that’s what you want or need. Often, they are simply someone who understands, loves or cares about you, and is there for you when you need them. Continue reading “How to Find Your Support Group”
I never want to hear or say “I’m busy” again.
I’m just now getting back into the swing of publishing a blog post every week. I’ve been “busy.” Although in all honesty, I have a lot going on in my life, I’m not so “busy” that I couldn’t sit down to write even just a little bit everyday. Being busy is my excuse for letting something slide to the side while I do other things. Most people do this. They say, “I’ve been so busy” when they forget your event they promised to be at. They say, “I’ve got so much going on right now” when they don’t want to say “no” to plans. It also goes the other way. Someone will say they are so “busy” because they want you and everyone else to think they are, whether they are or not.
Genuine busy-ness is unpleasant. Even workaholics don’t want to be busy.
If you enjoy most of what you do, the work doesn’t feel busy.
There is work, and there is busy work. Busy work is generally meaningless. If you say “I’m busy” instead of “I was working on signing a few contracts that will bring my office a lot of new business,” you devalue the work you are doing. If you say “I’m busy that day” instead of “I am spending time with family that day” you are devaluing the activity of being with family.
Really think about the things you value. If your work genuinely feels like busy work, then it’s probably time for a new attitude about work, or Continue reading “Stop Saying You Are “Busy””
How well do you know yourself? Are you living the life you want to live? Is your life really complicated and difficult right now?
Am I living the Life I want to Live?
I used to think I was the worst kind of blank slate, that I lacked genuine personality, and was a completely different person depending on who I was with. I also used to want a life that, I realize now, is overly complicated and would not make me happy. Until recently, I was moping about how busy my life is and how hard it was to get up in the morning and to not let go of everything. I was seriously over complicating my life and it was making me miserable because I didn’t know who I was and what I wanted.
As a disclaimer, I’ve always been very introspective and I think that comes with my introverted personality that is prone to overthinking everything. With that said, there is always room to grow and get to know yourself. Especially if you are like me, and weren’t asking yourself the right questions.
A lot of people think that life is supposed to be hard in some way for it to be rewarding. Additionally, people think that busyness and difficulty are an inescapable part of life. I want to say that it doesn’t have to be unless you want it to be. Plenty of people Continue reading “Discover The Life You Want To Live”
I didn’t have a smart phone until after I graduated high school. The cell phone I had was $30 from target and I didn’t use it much (we didn’t have cell service at my family home). I always had a camera with me, but that tiny thing was never turned around and aimed at me. I used to only be behind the camera. Now I fully embrace selfies and love them, even if I look crusty next to my friends. There is no reason to hate selfies simply because they are selfies. They are self-portraits in an age where anyone can take them. Why do we continue to shame people for loving themselves, or at least trying to? Selfies are a personal practice, no matter who else sees them. I personally consider it an act of self-love, and love for friends and family.
In high school, my friends had smartphones and took loads of selfies. Sometimes I was in them, but for the most part, I wasn’t. I could only take selfies on their phones if they initiated, so I felt the need to boycott selfies altogether and Continue reading “I Will Never Pass Up A Selfie”
Fleeting happiness is still happiness, I just wish I had more of it when I was this age.
Trigger Warning: depression, death, self-harm, suicide, eating disorders
This is a condensed (but still long AF) telling of my journey to mental health. I realized as I started writing this, that I am tired of writing about my mental illness. I simply feel like my major depression no longer defines me. It is a part of me and always will be, but it is not me.
With this considered, I believe mental health becomes more prevalent in daily lives. I recognize the importance of the topic, especially when someone can share their story because so many people are struggling and the more often and longer we maintain a dialogue, the closer we are to normalizing mental health care and moving away from stigma.
I separated the sections by periods of my life as Continue reading “My Journey to Mental Health, Not Recovery”