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My Breast Reduction 5 Years Later
I had a breast reduction five years ago and this is how I feel about it now.
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I Tricked Myself into being Comfortable With My Body
I tricked myself into loving my body using a variety of methods and steps. I say tricked, but I really mean I trained myself to look at and think about my body in neutral and positive ways. Its not easy and I have a long ways to go but I can confidently say I don’t hate what I see in the mirror anymore (and haven’t for a while) and the mirror was a really important part of learning to love my body. Now as a disclaimer because I don’t want people in the comments saying “But Brette, you’re a hypocrite! You’ve had plastic surgery!” and they would be kind of…
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A Guide to Complaining When You and Everyone You Know is Emotionally Exhausted
I don’t know about you, but I am emotionally exhausted. The global covid-19 pandemic is emotionally exhausting as much as it is scary. And if you are trying to be responsible and stay informed, the news updates everyday can be overwhelming. I have decided to go about my days expecting that everyone I know feels exactly the way I do (regardless of if they do or not). So what do you want to do when you are emotionally exhausted, lonely, and scared? You might want to scream and never stop screaming. You might want to escape to the nearest forested area, lie down, let the moss claim you, and become…
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Learn How To Say and Practice Saying “No”
In the past I have talked about how to say no to selfish friends ; but that’s no easy feat. In the post I talked about clear ways to tell your friends “no” without saying “no” and when to evaluate and communicate in a relationship where you feel you are being used by a selfish or toxic friend. Sometimes learning how to just say the word “no” is the real challenge, but you also need to practice using “no.” A lot of us feel that the word “no” makes us disagreeable and may lead to confrontation. A lot of us have been in relationships and situations where our “no” was disrespected,…
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Getting Motivated: How to Make Tiny Changes in Your Life to Get Back the Motivation You Lost
I have not posted in a while. I lost the motivation to write, edit, make images, and post. Everyday I thought, "you should work on your blog." It only takes a few hours a week to create one post, why not just do it? The answer was simple, I didn't want to. I lost my motivation.
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Becoming a Good Enough-ist
Becoming a good enough-ist has allowed me to grow and learn and be the best I can be, being a perfectionist only made me a stagnated, selfish and unreasonable person. Now, perfectionism isn't "good enough" for me.
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My Behavioral and Psychological Changes After My Breast Reduction
Like so many women with large breasts I always felt like people saw them first, and me, if at all, second. I had so much internalized hate towards my breasts because I felt like they prevented me from being me, from being seen as the intelligent and competent person I am, and from feeling respected as a human and not an object.
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Why Minimalism is Right For Me, but Not Everyone
I’ve mentioned this before in my “5 Ways Decluttering Changed My Life” post, but clutter triggers my anxiety. Clutter makes me feel trapped and claustrophobic; Dirty and cluttered homes stress me out and it took me a long time to realize that this was my problem. This anxiety has guided me towards a more simple lifestyle. Minimalism gets a bad rap for being too trendy, classist, and unachievable. Many forms of minimalism is this. Although, more generally minimalism is not a strict by-the-books lifestyle. Many people on both sides of the minimalism argument want you to believe it is but in reality, minimalism is what you make it and how…
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How I Stayed Positive Last Term: The Five Things That Help Me Though Depressive Episodes
I don’t know why, and I’m not the first to say it, but winter terms on quarter schedules are really hard regardless of course load and situation in life. This term is not an exception for me and I find that every winter term seems to get worse. Regardless of that, this last winter term I pulled through like I always do. No matter how awful an episode may seem, it always gets better. All it takes is a little perspective. I usually end winter term in a depressive episode, and it usually begins around week five (out of 11 weeks). This term, my depressive episode began the first day…
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Why I am Becoming a Minimalist
I used to be a maximalist through and through, I thought there was some kind of prestige in having a shit-ton of things. I have realized through minimalism that the number of things you own doesn't make you better or worse than anyone else. I am becoming a minimalist because its what is truly comfortable for me.
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