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A Guide to Complaining When You and Everyone You Know is Emotionally Exhausted
I don’t know about you, but I am emotionally exhausted. The global covid-19 pandemic is emotionally exhausting as much as it is scary. And if you are trying to be responsible and stay informed, the news updates everyday can be overwhelming. I have decided to go about my days expecting that everyone I know feels exactly the way I do (regardless of if they do or not). So what do you want to do when you are emotionally exhausted, lonely, and scared? You might want to scream and never stop screaming. You might want to escape to the nearest forested area, lie down, let the moss claim you, and become…
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I Moved to Increase My Access to Opportunities.
It’s been a minute since I last wrote or published anything for Brette’s Bliss because I’ve been moving (and a few other factors). I decided to move for a variety of reasons, primarily for more career opportunities. As I wrote in my “I wasn’t prepared for life after college” post, finding a job after graduation has been incredibly difficult and I know I could attribute that to a lack of industry in the location I was living in and the distance between me and the jobs I was applying for. I haven’t had a job interview since September 2019! To say that sucks is an embarrassing understatement. Now while moving…
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Learn How To Say and Practice Saying “No”
In the past I have talked about how to say no to selfish friends ; but that’s no easy feat. In the post I talked about clear ways to tell your friends “no” without saying “no” and when to evaluate and communicate in a relationship where you feel you are being used by a selfish or toxic friend. Sometimes learning how to just say the word “no” is the real challenge, but you also need to practice using “no.” A lot of us feel that the word “no” makes us disagreeable and may lead to confrontation. A lot of us have been in relationships and situations where our “no” was disrespected,…
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I Wasn’t Prepared for Life After College, but This is What I’m Doing About it
I just graduated! Actually, I graduated back in August (Like I said I would in my graduation post here). It’s been over a month now and I will be honest, life after graduating is not what I thought it would be, while also exactly like I thought it would be. I used to be scared of life after graduating from university, then I was excited for it as it got closer. Now I’m feeling a little lukewarm about graduating. I’m excited that I don’t have to go back to school this fall and that I can now start working full time, make money, start a career, and still have more…
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Becoming a Good Enough-ist
Becoming a good enough-ist has allowed me to grow and learn and be the best I can be, being a perfectionist only made me a stagnated, selfish and unreasonable person. Now, perfectionism isn't "good enough" for me.
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Why I Have a Problem With Sarcasm
Sarcasm can be mean, it can be unhealthy, and can hurt relationships; yet so many people treat sarcasm as a personality trait synonymous with cool, clever, and witty. I have a problem with sarcasm for a variety of reasons; primarily because a lot of people use sarcasm inappropriately and cause a lot of damage in the process. My main reasons for hating sarcasm are these: people use it as a weapon and an excuse for bad social skills, it’s bad communication, it’s an unhealthy coping mechanism, and people treat it like a personality trait. Sarcasm as a Weapon The definition of sarcasm from Merriam-Webster is: a sharp and often satirical…
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My Behavioral and Psychological Changes After My Breast Reduction
Like so many women with large breasts I always felt like people saw them first, and me, if at all, second. I had so much internalized hate towards my breasts because I felt like they prevented me from being me, from being seen as the intelligent and competent person I am, and from feeling respected as a human and not an object.
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Why Minimalism is Right For Me, but Not Everyone
I’ve mentioned this before in my “5 Ways Decluttering Changed My Life” post, but clutter triggers my anxiety. Clutter makes me feel trapped and claustrophobic; Dirty and cluttered homes stress me out and it took me a long time to realize that this was my problem. This anxiety has guided me towards a more simple lifestyle. Minimalism gets a bad rap for being too trendy, classist, and unachievable. Many forms of minimalism is this. Although, more generally minimalism is not a strict by-the-books lifestyle. Many people on both sides of the minimalism argument want you to believe it is but in reality, minimalism is what you make it and how…
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Make it a Habit: How To Consume Media Critically and Carefully
As we get closer to the 2020 election and potential presidential candidates are out campaigning, we are sure to start hearing conflicting stories, dissenting opinions, and mudslinging (something that has happened for hundreds of years in politics). I am someone who works in media (broadcast, and now formerly print) and consumes media, I can confidently say that how we consume media and where we get it is important to how we form opinions and arguments (which are not the same thing BTW). Something I hear all the time in class, at work, and in social settings is that the media is evil and has an agenda. While yes there is…
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I Graduated College? Now what?
I haven’t posted since April, which is quite a long time, but I have my reasons and I also know that those reasons are no longer an issue. So back in June, I walked in commencement and “graduated.” I didn’t actually graduate. But I will! I hadn’t completed an internship yet so I technically couldn’t graduate at commencement, but I am completing my internship over this summer and will graduate upon its completion in August. When I first started college I wanted to graduate in four years without taking summer terms. Well, that didn’t happen. I’m a little over five years in (not counting the college courses I took in…