Why I am Becoming a Minimalist

Why I am Becoming a Minimalist

I used to be a maximalist through and through, I thought there was some kind of prestige in having a shit-ton of things. I have realized through minimalism that the number of things you own doesn’t make you better or worse than anyone else. I am becoming a minimalist because its what is truly comfortable for me.

I grew up in a maximalist home

Growing up  I have always been surrounded by stuff. My family home has an office that served as a dumping ground for things we didn’t know what to do with but wouldn’t get rid of (eventually things would go, and more would fill their place). Our garage has a loft packed with things we got when my Great Grandma Lena Died and things my brother and I outgrew. My own bedroom was overflowing with clothes, furniture, and collectibles. Continue reading “Why I am Becoming a Minimalist”

Why I don’t Wear Padded Bras: Curate a Wardrobe That is Comfortable

Why I don’t Wear Padded Bras: Curate a Wardrobe That is Comfortable

I only wear soft cup and wireless bras. Since my breast reduction, I have had very few padded and underwired bras. They weren’t comfortable and wearing them made me anxious. I bought a really nice one at my first fitting after my reduction, but wore it only a handful of times until the cups got too big when my breasts settled. I bought one other after that and I wore it maybe two times.

Why I Don’t Wear Padded Bras

The reason I never wore these bras had little to do with physical comfort (I bought a wireless padded bra and it didn’t make a difference in my emotional comfort). While physical comfort was important, it came down to being comfortable emotionally and mentally with the appearance of my breasts. Continue reading “Why I don’t Wear Padded Bras: Curate a Wardrobe That is Comfortable”

My Simple Skin Care Routine

My Simple Skin Care Routine

My skin care routine has evolved over the years from only using bar soap, to using bar soap and a moisturizer, using a facial cleanser and moisturizers, the 10 step korean skin care regimen, to now: using bar soap again but with a facial oil, a surum, and a moisturizer. My skin care routine has changed so much but I ultimately found that keeping it simple is what works best for me.

My Skin Care Routine Evolution

I didn’t get my first “real” zit until I was about 16 years old.  There are a few things I think contributed to this phenomena, but in the end its because it was about damn time for it to happen. When it happened, a friend asked me how I washed my face. I told her I only use bar soap. That was the wrong answer. Continue reading “My Simple Skin Care Routine”

Five Ways Decluttering Changed My Life

Five Ways Decluttering Changed My Life

I’ve been decluttering my life and environment since I moved in December 2015. I started with getting rid of things that are no longer useful to me or no longer make me happy, then began decluttering the toxic thoughts and oppressive parts of my mental and digital environment.

Since I began decluttering:

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How to Say “No” to Selfish Friends

How to Say “No” to Selfish Friends

I can say that I have only ever had one selfish friend. This friend wanted me to spend time with him almost every waking moment and would turn manipulative when I said “no.” It took me a few weeks to learn to tell him “no” but when I did, his true nature came out and I ran from that toxic relationship quickly. He was a selfish friend that wasn’t worth keeping around. Some of us have selfish friends that don’t know that they are taking advantage of others.

Sometimes we have friends that are just selfish in nature. They expect you to drop everything for them when they need or want you to. They might even seek you out more than your other friends because they know you will say yes. And you do say yes.

But what if you had said no? What would have happened? Would your friend have accepted your answer or would they have turned against you?

Is this selfish friend worth keeping around? Continue reading “How to Say “No” to Selfish Friends”

How I Became More Comfortable and Confident Wearing What I Want to Wear

How I Became More Comfortable and Confident Wearing What I Want to Wear

Many people understand what it’s like to have an image of who they want to be, and what that version of themselves looks like and wears. They also know what it’s like to get dressed in the morning and put something on that doesn’t fit their image of their ideal self. I believe the primary reasons for this are twofold. One, they don’t actually know how they want to dress or they have a vague idea that might change all the time. Two, they aren’t comfortable or confident wearing what they want to wear.

Finding yourself and knowing how you want to present yourself is one step to simplifying your life. When you know your style and have items you love, you spend a lot less time figuring out what to wear, shopping, and purging your closet over and over again. This post is a small part of my Simple Life Series.

I struggled for years not knowing what my personal style was. Before my breast reduction, I was wearing a lot of black stretchy clothing from the maternity section. I was also a cheerleader and my thighs were large and I had a small waist, so finding pants that fit was a nightmare.

I also had a strange duality about me that I didn’t quite understand. I felt like a walking contradiction (cue Green Day). I am a Continue reading “How I Became More Comfortable and Confident Wearing What I Want to Wear”