As someone who writes a lot about my breast reduction and is a huge advocate for the surgery, I get shitty people posting shitty comments that I always delete (I read and approve all comments on my content) because I don’t need that kind of negativity and no one else does. 100% of these comments are about the “right” reasons to get a breast reduction.
This pisses me off to no end. Claiming that there are “right reasons” to get a breast reduction is a passive way to say that most reasons are “wrong reasons.” I can tell you the only wrong reason to get a breast reduction is because someone else told you to or is making you get one. The only wrong reason to choose a breast reduction (or augmentation for that matter) is when you don’t choose it for yourself. If you feel like you have to get a reduction to be something for someone else, you aren’t choosing it for yourself.
If you are electing to have a surgery for personal, medical, or any other reason, your choice is valid and a right reason. Almost all reasons to get a breast reduction are right reasons.
Don’t let anyone tell you that your choice is vain, selfish, or frivolous. And honestly, the people who make these comments are misogynist and sexist. All elective surgeries are seen as acts of vanity (mostly) women do. There is so much stigma surrounding elective, especially plastic, surgeries yet almost all plastic surgeries are advertised directly towards women. Women are told they aren’t “enough” and they need to change themselves to be enough if they can afford it, yet we then demonize the same women for seeking surgeries regardless of why they elect to have a surgery in the first place.
The most common reasons I have heard people tote as “wrong reasons” to get a breast reduction are rooted in patriarchal beauty standards and pleasing men.
Many people think a woman’s only value is to be appealing and perfect for her husband (or future husband). That’s what the statement “for the right reasons” means to me. It means that any reason to get a breast reduction that isn’t immediately life or body threatening, isn’t a good reason to get a breast reduction. This is bullshit and a disgusting thought.
Your body is yours (regardless of what conservative congress members think in many states) and what you choose to do with it to increase your quality of life and happiness is important and valid.
Women are constantly told how our bodies are supposed to look in order to be desirable to men, it’s everywhere we look. While as a society we have been moving away from media like this, we still haven’t eradicated it. It’s ingrained in people’s world views. We think women are only worth what they can do for men. We like to think we don’t think like that but it’s there. It’s subconscious. More people are concerned about a woman’s potential future husband than they are the woman. Similarly can be said for so almost all current women’s issues.
Potential future spouses should not have any say in what you do with your body just as current spouses and partners don’t. Don’t let the idea that you might one day be in a long term relationship talk you out of something you want because you don’t know if you are going to be partners with someone who respects and supports you or not. Hopefully you are looking for someone who does.
I have also said this before, but if your romantic partner wants or doesn’t want you to have a surgery because it will effect their desire or love for you, then they don’t love you. It’s that simple. If someone tells you the reasons you want a breast reduction aren’t valid, they don’t respect you or your autonomy and you don’t have to respect them.
I want to repeat myself one more time; (almost) all reasons to get a breast reduction are right reasons to get a breast reduction. There will always be someone who will argue with you about your reasons, but you have to remember when it comes to plastic and elective surgeries most people don’t care about the reason (even if they ask) and will be upset with you or argue with you anyways. These people are unreasonable and don’t understand that their thoughts and world views are not universal (or sound)
and can’t wrap their heads around the fact that people with breasts are human and have the right to do what they want with their breasts. Our Body, our choice.