Breast Reduction Series

The “Right” Reasons To Get a Breast Reduction

As someone who writes a lot about my breast reduction and is a huge advocate for the surgery, I get shitty people posting shitty comments that I always delete (I read and approve all comments on my content) because I don’t need that kind of negativity and no one else does. 100% of these comments are about the “right” reasons to get a breast reduction.

This pisses me off to no end. When someone claims that there are “right reasons” to get a breast reduction, they are saying that most reasons are “wrong reasons.” The only wrong reason to choose a breast reduction (or augmentation for that matter) is when you don’t choose it for yourself. If you feel like you have to get a reduction to be something for someone else, you aren’t choosing it for yourself.

If you are electing to have a surgery for personal, medical, or any other reason, your choice is valid and a right reason. Almost all reasons to get a breast reduction are right reasons.

Don’t let anyone tell you that your choice is vain, selfish, or frivolous. And honestly, the people who make these comments are misogynist and sexist. All elective surgeries are seen as acts of vanity (mostly) women do. There is so much stigma surrounding elective, especially plastic, surgeries yet almost all plastic surgeries are advertised directly towards women. Society tells women they aren’t “enough” and they need to change themselves to be enough if they can afford it, yet we then demonize the same women for seeking surgeries regardless of why they elect to have a surgery in the first place.

The most common reasons I have heard people tote as “wrong reasons” to get a breast reduction are rooted in patriarchal beauty standards and pleasing men.

Many people think a woman’s only value is to be appealing and perfect for her husband (or future husband). That’s what the statement “for the right reasons” means to me. It means that any reason to get a breast reduction that isn’t immediately life or body threatening, isn’t a good reason to get a breast reduction. This is bullshit and a disgusting thought.

Your body is yours (regardless of what conservative congress members think in many states) and what you choose to do with it to increase your quality of life and happiness is important and valid.

Women are constantly told how our bodies are supposed to look in order to be desirable to men, it’s everywhere we look. While as a society we have been moving away from media like this, we still haven’t eradicated it. It’s ingrained in our worldviews. We think women are only worth what they can do for men. We like to think we don’t think like that but it’s there. It’s subconscious. More people are concerned about a woman’s potential future husband than they are the woman. Similarly can be said for so almost all current women’s issues.

Potential future spouses should not have any say in what you do with your body just as current spouses and partners don’t. Don’t let the idea that you might one day be in a long term relationship talk you out of something you want because you don’t know if you are going to be partners with someone who respects and supports you or not. Hopefully you are looking for someone who does.

I have also said this before, but if your romantic partner wants or doesn’t want you to have a surgery because it will effect their desire or love for you, then they don’t love you. It’s that simple. If someone tells you the reasons you want a breast reduction aren’t valid, they don’t respect you or your autonomy and you don’t have to respect them.

I want to repeat myself one more time; (almost) all reasons to get a breast reduction are right reasons to get a breast reduction. There will always be someone who will argue with you about your reasons, but you have to remember when it comes to plastic and elective surgeries most people don’t care about the reason (even if they ask) and will be upset with you or argue with you anyways. These people are unreasonable and don’t understand that their thoughts and world views are not universal (or sound)
and can’t wrap their heads around the fact that people with breasts are human and have the right to do what they want with their breasts. Our Body, our choice.

I am a writer and like all writers, I love stories. Fiction, non-fiction, poetry, blog and social posts, pictures, music; they all tell stories. My favorite stories are based in experiences. The human experience is truly magnificent and we all experience it differently. "Brette's Bliss" is a play on my name. I've spent most of my life worrying about whether I am happy or will be happy, and wondering if the meaning of my last name was something that would define my life or if I was simply overthinking it.  As I record my experiences, I learn more about myself and realize happiness is now, not in the past or in the future. This blog is where I share my experiences one story at a time to relive my joyful moments twice and encourage others to do the same. 


  • Laura

    Brette–once again you hit the nail on the head! ALL these observations you made are totally and completely legit and spot on, girl! Wonderful article and so insightful for one so young. 🙂
    As a middle-aged but young thinking woman I can vouch for so much you said. I have always been a large lady both in breast size and tummy size–I’m working on both for health reasons. When I casually mentioned to a neighbour that I was going to have breast reduction SHE told me I was like one of those stars on reality shows. When I asked HER what she meant by that she replied that I was vain and had nothing better to do with my life!! Man, I wanted to smack HER something fierce! Why I uppercased SHE and HER is bc it was another WOMAN that said this–I was disappointed and pissed at one that is a member of my own gender. Well, I lost my shit with her to say the least! I told her I was a grown woman and it was none of her effing business what I did with my body. She was always a small breasted lady and has always had negative things to say about large breasted gals. She also is very much a man pleaser. A case of one woman being envious of another for some stupid reason. I explained that my size leaves me with headaches, back aches, neck pain, rashes, unwelcome stares and comments, etc and that it was time to get a reduction. She actually said, “well being big chested a small price to pay for having something men want”!!! I lost my shit AGAIN and told her it was for me and no one else.
    Have you noticed the people that always want us to keep our breasts are ones that don’t have them and have NO IDEA of physical pain they actually cause? And that’s not including the emotional and mental anguish as well. Don’t walk a mile in my shoes but a mile in my DD cups and see how “wonderful” big breasts really are!
    Keep up the fantastic articles Brette and thanks for being an Advocate for this subject!

  • Laura

    Funny how guys (politicians, Wall St and Ad companies) in three piece suits think they have a right to tell me what I can and can’t do with my body.
    Society says us women should look a certain way and when we go for surgery to “improve” ourselves and conform to societies norms, we’re labelled as vain. Geez, ya just can’t win! You can’t satisfy everyone so please yourself! 🙂
    Breast reductions for health reasons should be taken more seriously for women. People making derogatory,insensitive,ignorant,stupid or uniformed comments about and towards women with large breasts should be told off soundly…no lady-like decorum here. Ignorant remarks require ignorant replies.

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