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Breast Reduction Series

Things I Didn’t Ask My Breast Reduction Surgeon That I Should Have, But Didn’t Know To

I didn’t ask my breast reduction surgeon these questions because I partially didn’t care about the answers, at this point I wanted the surgery no matter what, I was prepared for anything. This worked out in the end but very easily could not have. This is a list of the questions I should have asked my breast reduction surgeon about my surgery and didn’t (or did and I don’t remember asking it). My mother went to my appointments with me which was beneficial, because there was someone else in the room looking out for me and had questions of their own. I also had a surgeon that was also a teacher and she did’t leave room for a lot if questions because I felt like I was learning the entire time I was in her presence as her students were part of the exams as well.

What are the general results for your patients? Can I see some of your previous patient’s before and afters? 

I didn’t look online to see what my breast reduction surgeon’s work looked like. I still haven’t. I also didn’t ask her about her work and results. If I were to do it again I would definitely ask about results and if I could see pictures of results. I think your surgeon should be able to talk about results generally and show you what they have done for other people. Some private plastic surgeons have their own instagrams and websites. I went to OHSU and Shiliang Chang was my breast reduction surgeon. Their website doesn’t have images, but they did take a before and after image, so I’m sure if someone asked they could show results. I wish I had asked to see other patient results before moving forward. Regardless, Dr. Chang is amazing and I couldn’t be happier with my care and results.

What is recovery like?

This might also be phrased in multiple ways like, how much pain will I be in afterwards? How long will the pain last? Can I call the office or send emails if I have questions during recovery? Some people report needing drains, ask your breast reduction surgeon if thats part of recovery. You need to know what your recovery will or might look like so if you need help you have someone to ask in advance.

I couldn’t lift my arms above 90 degrees and that made showering difficult.  My grandma visited to help me during recovery and she and my mom took turns helping me shower and helping me get dressed. I also couldn’t lift over 10 pounds (which included my kitty Sylvie) so I needed help moving things. If you don’t live with someone who can help you during recovery, you need to know what your restrictions are so that you can find someone to help you ahead of time.

How long is recovery?

This didn’t matter to me because I wasn’t working or taking classes at the time, but if you work or are a student you need to know how long your recovery time will be so you can schedule the surgery when it will be least damaging to your income or education. Ask your surgeon what your recovery timeline is so you know what you will need help with and for how long. If you plan to take pain killers, how long that will be and if it will affect other areas of your life like work. Length of recovery should factor into when you schedule your surgery.

Are you using sutures or glue?

I had absorbable sutures and had no idea glue was an option. After some research, I found that glue is common in breast reductions, but is more expensive than sutures. Also, some people are allergic or sensitive to the glue (which I’m sure is the same for sutures?). I have had surgical glue on a toe and foot (coincidentally, shortly after my reduction) and I can’t imagine having it on my breasts. I am glad my breast reduction surgeon went with sutures. If it’s something that matters to you, you should ask your surgeon about it. I wish I had asked because it would have mattered to me.

How can I best take care of my scars?

If you care and are worried about scars this is important.  My breast reduction surgeon sold us scar treatment to use multiple times a day, but she also had very specific directions about how to massage my scars to break up the tissue and how often, and instructions for how long my breasts could be wet and how to dry them. I followed my surgeon’s instructions perfectly and my scars are minimal and practically invisible (I also massaged my scars with moisturizer long after). Talk to your surgeon about scars and how to take care of your incisions properly, then do it, it could change how your incisions heal and your scars develop.

What are my scar treatment options? How much do they cost? Will Insurance cover scar treatment? 

I had a scar treatment gel I used multiple times a day. In My Three Year Breast Reduction Anniversary post, I share the scar treatment product information if you are curious. My other options were like sheet masks from the same brand, but there are many different options and ask your doctor about them. Decide which ones are best for you and your needs. It might be nice to wear gel sheets over your scars, but are they practical for your day to day life? What is easiest for you? Do you have any allergies? My doctor noted at the first appointment that it looked like I scar really easily and I confirmed it. She was thinking about scar treatment before she even sent the insurance request to my insurance company. I didn’t chose my scar treatment, my surgeon told us what to get and we bought it. Insurance didn’t cover it. Each 3oz tube cost about $60 and I went through two, which is a lot of money. Think about scar treatment that you can afford and talk about it with your surgeon and maybe even your primary care physician.

What will my scars look like? What shape incision are you using? 

The most common incision and scar shapes are the anchor or inverted T. I have seen pictures of scars that just run along the bottom of the breast as well. Ask your surgeon what you should expect. I have an anchor incision. Ultimately, I argue that this doesn’t matter because it comes with the surgery, but it is nice to know what to expect just for peace of mind.

Don’t be afraid to ask your breast reduction surgeon questions

Ask your surgeon and doctor about the things you care about, and don’t let yourself get to a point where you are so desperate anything is good enough for you. Ask questions and if you don’t like the answers, it’s okay to talk to other surgeons. You are going to a surgeon for a very important medical service, if they aren’t satisfying your needs and concerns, find someone who will. Know as much as you can about your surgery as possible. Knowledge, in this sense, can only hep you in your breast reduction process and give you agency.

I am a writer and like all writers, I love stories. Fiction, non-fiction, poetry, blog and social posts, pictures, music; they all tell stories. My favorite stories are based in experiences. The human experience is truly magnificent and we all experience it differently. "Brette's Bliss" is a play on my name. I've spent most of my life worrying about whether I am happy or will be happy, and wondering if the meaning of my last name was something that would define my life or if I was simply overthinking it.  As I record my experiences, I learn more about myself and realize happiness is now, not in the past or in the future. This blog is where I share my experiences one story at a time to relive my joyful moments twice and encourage others to do the same. 


  • Laura

    Thanks so much for this valuable info, Brette!
    You mentioned many things that I never thought of asking so I will be sure to follow up with my surgeon about. The first time I had BR was about 25 yrs ago so I was young naïve and uninformed about this type of surgery. I’m hoping the medical procedures for this kind of surgery has improved since I first had it done. My first surgeon and his staff were not very forth-coming with instructions and I learned the hard way to be a lot more assertive with this second surgery. Much has changed since my first BR adventure but this time I hope to be a pain in the butt and ask a million questions! LOL! I hope your recovery is finished and your enjoying your tiny girls! Just curious—how has your reduction changed you on a psychological level? Do you feel more free, less self-conscious etc? I read how a BR affects others physically but I wonder about the mental and personality changes as well?
    All the Best-Laura

    • brettesbliss

      I was actually thinking about writing a blog answering your question because while I was editing this blog I thought about the psychological and behavioral changes in myself for the first time in a long time. I find I feel like I have to go out of my way to prove my intelligence and competence because before my reduction no one ever took me seriously. I don’t experience that anymore but I still find myself taking steps in social interactions to be respected when I know the people I’m talking to already respect me. As I reflect on this I see a lot of mental and behavioral things that have changed in myself over the years.

      • sara

        that’s really so interesting and curios!! so having larger breasts make people take you less seriously?

  • Laura

    Yes Brette write a blog about behavioural and personality changes, etc !! I think that would be helpful to those of us still on our Boobie journeys! It would be fab to hear how life has changed for yourself and others since your girls have “left home”!! LOL! Eventhough I’m a gal in her fifties I experience CONSTANTLY the lack of respect bc of my girls. First they see the boobs and then MAYBE want to hear what I have to say and what I think and feel. My titties have stolen my spotlight for for far too long and it’s time for ME to be noticed and not “the ladies”!
    Yes please write a blog on the mental after effects of BR I think it would be very enjoyable as your articles are very inspiring!
    Take care and thanks again!
    Laura 🙂

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