What You Need to Know About Moving Out From a “Landlord’s” Perspective

What You Need to Know About Moving Out From a “Landlord’s” Perspective

I am not a landlord, but my mother is and I live in one of her rentals. My grandmother worked in property management and was a landlord as well. My mother owns three rental homes, I live in one of them. These are ten tips I picked up from them throughout the years and some fairly recently, since I am directly related to my landlord. Continue reading “What You Need to Know About Moving Out From a “Landlord’s” Perspective”

My First Bra Fitting After My Reduction

My First Bra Fitting After My Reduction

After my breast reduction, I wore my stained surgical bras for months pining for the day I could buy new pretty bras.

When I was allowed to buy and wear real bras, we went straight to Nordstrom’s. Mom and I wanted to get me something special as my “first bra” and mom actively boycotts Victoria’s Secret after one employee told me their “bras would fit me if I gained weight.”

So to Nordstrom’s we went. We browsed all the bras, picked out a few I liked and took me back to get a fitting.

At this point, by breasts were healed, but were not pretty. They looked stitched together and angry.

I was terrified that Continue reading “My First Bra Fitting After My Reduction”

Discover The Life You Want To Live

Discover The Life You Want To Live

How well do you know yourself? Are you living the life you want to live? Is your life really complicated and difficult right now?

Am I living the Life I want to Live?

I used to think I was the worst kind of blank slate, that I lacked genuine personality, and was a completely different person depending on who I was with. I also used to want a life that, I realize now, is overly complicated and would not make me happy. Until recently, I was moping about how busy my life is and how hard it was to get up in the morning and to not let go of everything. I was seriously over complicating my life and it was making me miserable because I didn’t know who I was and what I wanted.

As a disclaimer, I’ve always been very introspective and I think that comes with my introverted personality that is prone to overthinking everything. With that said, there is always room to grow and get to know yourself. Especially if you are like me, and weren’t asking yourself the right questions.

A lot of people think that life is supposed to be hard in some way for it to be rewarding. Additionally, people think that busyness and difficulty are an inescapable part of life. I want to say that it doesn’t have to be unless you want it to be. Plenty of people Continue reading “Discover The Life You Want To Live”

My three year Breast Reduction Anniversary

My three year Breast Reduction Anniversary

In honor of my three year breast reduction anniversary, here is a Q&A of all the breast reduction related questions I have ever received.

These questions come from private messages I have received and things I am generally asked in person. I did a similar blog responding to my friends fears surrounding the operation here. 

Q. Why did I decide to get a breast reduction?

A. After years of physical pain, emotional pain, and sexual harassment, I decided it was the only thing that would improve the quality of my life. I thought that if my breasts weren’t abnormally large, people might treat me like a person, my back wouldn’t hurt all the time, and I might actually be okay with my body.

I started developing breasts around eight or nine and they grew quickly and painfully from there. This means I started getting catcalled at a young age, I was constantly mistaken for being older, and we all know how cruel kids can be.

When I entered middle school, people Continue reading “My three year Breast Reduction Anniversary”

How to be a Good Roommate

How to be a Good Roommate

How to be a good roommate and communicate with roommates that drive you insane.

I have had many roommates and each one provided a different experience. I had some really good ones, I have also had some pretty bad ones. I have a post on finding and selecting roommates here.

Assuming you are in the process of finding roommates, or you already have a roommate and may be experiencing conflict, I will explain how to prevent conflict to the best of your ability and how to deal with conflict. There are a few things to consider first: if this person Continue reading “How to be a Good Roommate”